Get help & advice
If you are having problems becoming pregnant, there are a number of resources you can use to help you identify and cope with your fertility issues:
Seeing your GP
If you are concerned about getting pregnant, your age and general health determines how quickly you need to seek help from your GP.
- are over 35 - make an appointment with your GP after six months of trying for a baby, as fertility tests can take time to complete and your age may affect the treatments available to you.
- are under 35 and healthy - make an appointment after 18 months to two years of trying for a baby.
- have a condition that affects fertility (such as, for a woman, irregular periods, pelvic inflammatory disease, or for a man, having undescended testicles) – make an appointment with your GP after six months as it is more likely that a problem will be detected.
For information on the types of tests your GP may offer, see:
Getting emotional support
It can be difficult to appreciate just how stressful infertility can be unless you have been through it yourself. Patients often report that they didn’t realise this early enough.
Your family and friends may not fully understand what you are going through and sometimes they can say the wrong thing.
To read more about patients’ personal experience of infertility treatment and their tips for handling it, read:
Joining a support group
To help you through what many people describe as the ‘emotional rollercoaster’ of infertility treatment, you may want to consider joining a support group. There you will find people in similar circumstances to your own, who will understand what you are going through.
Your GP or fertility clinic can advise you on support groups in your area, or you can contact Infertility Network UK.
There are also numerous ‘virtual’ support groups on the internet, such as:
- Infertility Network UK (IN UK) website
- Fertility Friends website
- AceBabes wesbite
- More to life website
Going through fertility treatment can sometimes put a strain on your relationship with your partner, although many patients tell us that, in the end, their experience brought them closer together.
It is often useful to talk about your feelings with someone who doesn’t know you or your partner (if you have one). Counselling can help you explore your feelings, become clearer about your situation and find new ways of coping.
Your fertility clinic will offer you an opportunity to talk to a counsellor. Sometimes they will provide free counselling session(s), and sometimes you will have to pay for this. Check with your clinic to find out what they offer. Counselling will help you understand the implications of the treatment you are undergoing.
To find out more about counselling and how it can help you and your partner, see:
Page last updated: 14 June 2012