Get support & advice
Thousands of people in the UK have been born with the help of donated eggs, sperm or embryos.
If you are donor-conceived you can ask us for information about your donor and whether you have any genetic siblings also conceived from the same donor.
Think through the implications
If you do decide to seek information about your donor or any genetic siblings, you may find it helpful to think about how having this information might affect you. Our leaflets can help you with this.
- Preparing to access identifying information about your donor (PDF 173kB)
- Preparing to access non-identifying information about your donor and donor-conceived genetic siblings (PDF 122kB)
- Preparing to exchange contact details with your donor-conceived genetic siblings (PDF 174kB)
You may want to think about the following:
What are you expecting to find out? Will you be disappointed, for example, if your donor has left very little information?
There is also a small chance that the donor you thought was anonymous has chosen to now be identifiable. If so, would you consider getting in contact with your donor?
Have you got expectations about the number of donor-conceived genetic siblings you have? 10 different families are able to use the same donor and have as many children as they like, so it is possible that you could have over 20 donor-conceived genetic siblings. It is also possible that you have none.
We recommend that you talk these issues through with family and friends. If you think you need further help thinking through the issues, we can provide professional support.
This involves being referred to a specialist with expertise in supporting people involved in, or affected by, donation. If you were conceived at a UK licensed centre, we can offer you a number of free sessions.
Other places to go for support
For advice about other counselling services in the UK, contact the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. They can find counselling services in your area.
Your local GP may also be able to refer you to a counsellor.
You may also want to contact the British Infertility Counselling Association (BICA). BICA aims to promote high quality, accessible counselling services.
The Donor Conception Network (DCN) is a self-help network of over 1,000 families created with the help of donated eggs, sperm or embryos; couples and individuals seeking to found a family this way; and adults conceived using a donor. The DCN also has a young persons group which you may find helpful.
The Donor Conceived Register was set up on 1 April 2013 to replace the UK DonorLink(UKDL) and facilitates contact between donors and their donor-conceived children conceived before 1 August 1991.
Those affected by donation before 1 August 1991 are able to sign up to a contact register.
The Counselling Directory lists counsellors and psychotherapists who are registered with a recognised professional body or can provide proof of their qualifications and insurance cover.
Page last updated: 18 April 2013